jp....jp....jp.......you're overcomplicating the whole issue.....
girls irritate us whenever we do guy stuff, just like how we as men can't figure out why it'll take a woman 2 hours to pick out a pair of shoes, then take them back the next day to exchange them for the first pair they picked.
women are indecisive and are always concerned that they'll make a decision which will make you think less of them, so they subconciously avoid making them, even the simplest of them like dinner choice.
you have to employ some caveman action.....when you're thinking about dinner.....tell her where you're taking her...don't ask, if she doesn't like your decision she'll tell you.....if she doesn't then she'll sit through the meal then ***** about it after the fact, which you then tell her "next time speak up".....this will make her comprehend that if she does in fact have to make some sort of decision.
when you're ready to goto toledo, tell her when you're going, don't ask, if she wants to go with you she will let you know.
finally....when you asked her to have her friend give you a call about X you should've said "what's the number so i can call them".
it's really simple caveman action.......
OPA!!!!!!