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Originally posted by oldE
Guys want action. Women want romance.
If you ask, "Where would you like to eat?", she is probably just happy to get on the road and be surprised by how thoughtful you are. By asking her to choose, you are making her responsible for the decision/meal/evening. She doesn't want that. Also, she doesn't want the same thing you had yesterday, because that denotes lack of thought. If you take her to the same place, she asks herself if the romance is gone. I like things I know I will like, I have learned to cast my food appreciation further afield to show her I'm interested in more than the food.
I used to get the same thing when asking my bride of thirty years what movie she would like to watch. I used to feel I was doing her a favour by asking her preference. She hated that.
It's about the experience and the conversation. The 'stream of consciousness' comments are pretty close in my experience. It is not the destination, but the journey, to them.
Les
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3-1/2 pages to get to this-- the very best posture to take in a relationship with a woman.
Women
especially women who have professional-level jobs have to be somewhat masculine all day. If you don't provide the safe refuge where they can be feminine, you will ultimately fail as a Significant Other.
That means you drive the small decisions. If she wants to differ on those decisions, she can speak up. Just assume she's happy to be in the passenger seat of the relationship -- but let her grab the wheel when she needs to. You want to really do it right, you'll have a plan B and C.