I'm 35 and getting married for the first time this fall. I've been engaged before and the wedding planning really drove some wedges between my folks and me. My mom wanted to invite a whole slew of people I had never even heard of and even a few I flat out hated. But they were paying for it, so I didn't make a stink. The China part of the wedding was gonna be covered by my then-fiance's filthy rich dad. Money was no object. But my mom even wanted the whole family to go to that one too, which would have made the Griswald's look like seasoned travelers. Anyway, that engagement broke off and so nothing happened.
Fast forward three years and my mom asked me last week if I was planning to invite my dad and her to MY wedding. Sounded to me like it was all on me. My lady just wants to go to the courthouse and then hit a bar afterwards - very low-maint. Maybe I can swing a wedding at the track or a local Porsche garage
. This fiance is not filthy rich and sees no point feeding the wedding industry racket with money we either don't have or could better use elsewhere. But having no wedding at all is pretty much eloping and won't make my folks any happier than the last time around What to do?