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Originally posted by Rick Lee
Jake, you're my hero. That's how I want to do it, except I don't even want to deal with that much planning. I doubt my folks would hand me a check if they had no control over the planning. I am on my second house and I really can't think of a single thing I'd ask for as a wedding gift. Asking for money really turns me off and though I could use it, I really don't look like I could. I have all the household appliances, tools and furnishings I could ever need. I really hate this stuff.
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1) If you keep things relatively casual, there isn't all that much planning. Honestly, plan the kind of day you and your bride want. If it gets more complicated than you are comfortable with, how are you supposed to enjoy it? 30 minutes after the ceremony, we had ~30 people out in the river going for a swim. Not hard to plan that.
2) If you don't want gifts, don't take them. We were in the same spot as you; had a house and had everything we wanted. It's not like we were 18 and just starting out, plus I am fussy and like to pick my stuff out anyway. We told people that we would not be accepting gifts. Any gifts, cash or otherwise, would be going to local charities. If someone felt the need to give a gift, they were encouraged to make a donation to one of three charities.
My point is that if you're paying, it's only as complicated and expensive as you want it to be.