Dueller you make perfect sense.
I like your approach to this. Very sensible. I think the moral argument is finished frankly; it's all about responsibility for one's own actions and taking due care these days. Has been for a long time - this isn't a new thing.
Remaining chaste until one's wedding night is a beautiful thought...as long as you're marrying real early and are happy to not "try before you buy".
I am not advocating free and easy sex all over the place, but I am realistic.
I am dead certain my parents didn't "wait" and didn't sample other pleasures - jeez Dad was almost proud of his single days playboy reputation and Mum has never even alluded to being "the virginal bride". They were married in 1962; but both in their early 30s by then so if they hadn't both played around a bit I would consider there was something very, very wrong
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I know Dad would like to have thought he was giving away "an unplucked bloom" - but in reality he knew better given my past relationships and in any case an ivory, not white wedding gown gave it away
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There are distinct differences now - hell; the schools down here worry about kids and sex in primary school - kids of 10, 11, 12 gettin' into it. They may be physically "equipped", but that's all. No way are these kids mentally "ready" or mature enough to deal with anything beyond a peck on the cheek in my book.
I have already had certain "chats" with our 14yo son - not so much as a mother but as a female. I want him to understand the consequences of certain actions and not to feel pushed or indeed push for "these experiences" anytime soon. It's not easy putting this stuff into a context he can readily accept without coming off sounding too heavy; but so far so good. OTOH I think Mike has run a mile from having any sort of discussion with 14yo Tom - for that he would had to admit Tom is growing up!
You've got it good with the girls - no doubt not without a whole lot of work on your part and their Mum's. Being frank and honest with your kids usually means it's a two way street...but remember we all like to have some secrets too
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And I agree Toby, the kids have great teeth
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