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Thank you all for your insights.

The therapist said basically the same thing, she won't quit until she's ready but you can set terms that may make her uncomfortable about her decision to smoke..
Things like refusing to be near her when she smokes. Setting a date after which being married to a smoker is not an option. Not wanting to watch her die and the like.
Gathering the family for a heart to heart were among his suggestions.
I reiterate that he thought any threat of sanction would most likely be met with belligerence.