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This whole, "she completes me" crap is just that...crap.
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There are many lenses through which we can look at relationships.
"Imago" concepts state that we fall in love with someone who we think 1) can fix our childhood wounds and 2) possesses attributes of our selves that we have repressed.
Now if this works it should be awesome and would be like feeling "completed" because the relationship you have with your spouse would help you see hidden parts of your "self", and they would heal your residual trauma. When both partners are conscious of this dynamic they can start helping each other.
I'm currently separated from my wife of 15 years - the relationship was unconscious for so long that I don't know if we will recover - I am learning A LOT and one of the key things so far is that happiness comes from within me - it's in my power to become who I need to be. Once I get ME down, I may be able to be in a real relationship again.