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Originally posted by Purrybonker
Actually I think that's exactly the point Maslow had in mind. If you load up a 16 year old with new Porsches (or whatever) isn't it possible that you (from this one perspective) just shift the "desire bar" above things like new Porsches? So instead of having wet dreams about caymans you free his mind to desire more "lofty" things in life. Like writing novels or inventing something or captaining some business enterprise...
I'm pretty sure this is just one of those scale issues, but it can be pretty complex and confusing for parents. I'm with you - I wouldn't buy my kid a new Porsche, but I'm sure my kids have gotten lots of stuff that parents in "lesser economic conditions" would consider obscene indulgences.
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Or how about you give the kid an expectation that he will be handed whatever he wants whenever he wants because DADDY made all the money.
This pattern plays out over and over all across America big earners with little accumulated wealth spending their money like there is no tomarrow. Their kids, get whatever they want, and grow to expect it. In too many cases the kids are not big earners but want to live like one. This is where daddy comes in. Daddy must supplement their income in order for them to live at the level they grew accustomed to. Then the child turns inot just another bill daddy has to pay for the rest fo his life.
The best think a parent can do for thier kid if force them to stand on their own. I am constantly explaining to my 13 y/o that all the nice things daddy and mommy have are due to hard work and making something of yourselves. Can he expect fancy vacations, a big house and expensive car when he is just starting out in life? Hell no! But when he does achieve these things they are so much more appeciated not expected like Mr. Silver spoon.
Your little "bosses project" that you got stuck with is a perfect example. Daddy obviously made soem good moves and had some business smarts to get where he is. Now junior wants in and daddy hands him a huge chunk of money, hands him a job and forces you to tech him to the ropes. You admit he is not very bright so its going to take some work, if this kid was not who he is he would not be where he is. But because daddy is dolling out the handouts he appears to be more than he is. Hopefully daddy will be able to support him for his entire life, or until he locks the kid into the board of directors of the company then daddy will have passed his problem along.
No sour grapes here, I just want my kids to grow up standing on their own and if it means they have to take some lumps along to way, good, it will make them stronger in the long run.
Your bosses son is probably a pretty weak individual who cannot fathom doing without.