[jyl]

I've never handled a Seecamp, but assuming it is a typical semi-auto design, you cannot make the recoil spring any lighter, and that spring is what is resisting your wife's attempt to cycle (pull back) the slide.

Three solutions. (1) Find a grip and technique that allows her to do it, safely. Usually people grip the slide from the rear (meaning palm of hand is behind the rear of the slide) and pull back. Try gripping from the front (palm of hand is over the front sight) and pushing forward. We are often stronger when pushing than when pulling. But beware, if that method means a part of the body is in front of the muzzle, it is not safe. Especially if your wife can't keep her finger off the trigger. Blowing off her wrist would be bad. (2) Carry the gun with a round chambered, which I would think she should do anyway. No need to cycle the slide to fire the first or each successive shot. Not sure about reloading, don't know the Seecamp. (3) Get a different gun that she can operate.