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Originally posted by widgeon13
Actuallly attending a wedding tomorrow at Cornell University chapel in Ithaca, NY.
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Ah, Sage Chapel. I went to a wedding there 4 or 5 years ago.
I think the amount to give depends. Depends on how well you know the people. Depends on where you are in life/career. I don't think there's one answer that fits everyone. Because my wife and I (and a lot of our friends) are still in the getting-the-first-real-job phase of our lives, I think the $75-$150 range is roughly appropriate. From the bride and groom's perspective, I hope it's not about the monetary value of the gift, as opposed to the thought that went behind its selection (and your presence at the wedding). From a personal perspective, as impersonal as a gift certificate sounds, my wife and I thought they were perhaps the most useful ones. After all, we're still pretty transient in our lives. So it's nice to not get bogged down with "stuff," and instead have a gift that allows us flexibility to get whatever we want whenever/wherever we settle down.
And while I understand Rick's (and notfarnow's) rationales of specifically asking to NOT receive gifts, I recall some Dear Abby type column that said putting this information (or where you're registered) on an invitation is not considered proper etiquette. However, I don't know how you're supposed to disburse that information. Through parents and siblings? Have them discreetly pass it along? Hope your guests have ESP?