hmmm. having a tough day so I just picked up a pint of Baileys Häagen-Dazs.
from your description Bill, and coming from a family with alcoholism, I'd say she might have a problem. Alcoholism is a lot like rust and pre-74 cars. The rust you see on the surface "isn't that bad" but on closer inspection you find that you need all new rockers and floors, longitudinals...basketcase. then you have to decide if it's worth putting in the work.