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Originally Posted by Rick Lee
For you guys who've been through a divorce or two, how sure were you when you first got married that it was gonna last forever? Did you see but ignore red flags? Think it would all work itself out? Or were you 110% convinced it was gonna last forever? I'm getting married in about 6 wks. for the first time at the tender age of 36. I've had a previous engagement break up and as tough as it was, I know it would have been a lot worse had we gotten married. Please advise.
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Rick, I married at 23. At 36 you are a LOT more set in your ways. That alone would be troubling to me.
I knew even at that age that "forever" was a concept I just couldn't really understand. Still, she was my childhood sweetheart, the first girl I had made love to
(yes, 20-20 hindsight makes me cringe over that too). For you it should be ENTIRELY different. Still I knew there were issues but thought they would sort of come out in the wash. Instead they sot of get diluted "in the wash" of the years but they don't go away. They come to the surface eventually.