[Dan in Pasadena]

In my opinion, there is a difference between hovering and being close. Of course, this is a self serving distinction if you are a parent and you don't want to think of yourself as a "hoverer"!

Plus, there's an ethnic component to this "issue" which isn't addressed by this article.

My 25 year old daughter & 26 year old son live 75 miles and 35 miles from me respectively. We are hispanic. In the traditional hispanic culture (I am 2nd generation, they are obviously 3rd, but their mother is Anglo) families tend to stay much closer than traditional Anglo families; at least this has been my experience from observing my exe's family for 25 years.

I "text" back and forth with my son daily. I probably talk to him once a day; 75% of the time he calls me. We are both avid Dodgers fans so it'll be, "...do you think we'll go after ARod" or ""Hey, what do you think of the new Z06" or "Explain how to cope crown molding to me" etc. We have always been very close. When he was a boy he went with me everywhere until middle school. Even in high school I went to all of his baseball and waterpolo games and whatever else he was doing. Am I hovering? Sounds like Legion would think so

With my daughter I text or talk to her maybe once or twice in a week. I do not have a thing to say about my adult children's lives unless they ask for advice or help.