[Hugh R]

My daughter graduated last June from UCSB. I paid for most of her education, largely through a second on my house. She graduated in 3 years, not 4. My wife and her talked several days a week. But we didn't interfere or delve into her life at all. We never called her on Thurs, Fri or Sat. nights. Not our busines what she was doing. I don't think in those three years I ever thought to look at a report card, she graduated Summa Cum Laude, as it happens. She just leased her first apartment on her own, and she's been there a week. I haven't seen it yet, but expect to this coming weekend when I help move some stuff in.

At some point, you gotta kick them out and see if they fly or fall. But be there to help them get up, notice I didn't say catch them as they fall.

My 18y/o son is sticking his toe in Cal State Northridge. He lives at home. HE I will have to watch a little more. I've told him that as long as he's making good grades, I'll help him through college. If he doesn't he knows he has two months to find a place and get a job and get on with his life. He also knows that at about $10/hour, he isn't going to be living high on his own.