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Originally Posted by legion
How many times have you called their colleges, bosses, landlords, etc. to solve their problems? How many times have you directed your kids that they must do these things? Or do you let them learn their own lessons after making suggestions? That is where I draw the line on hovering.
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I've never called anybody for them. Not coaches during childhood sports, certainly not bosses, teachers, etc. When they have expressed upset, concern, angst, about something - I asked them what's up and would usually ask them what THEY thought they should do? When they were little I'd tell them how to approach the issue. As they grew older that paid off. They'd typically know what to do on their own...not always, but a lot of the time. Hell, I still don't know how to handle all of MY problems all of the time!
I have no trouble UNDERSTANDING why a parent would want to call; but I don't understand why their "little voice" wouldn't say, "No, let's see how they do? They'll call if they have a big problem they can't handle".
To me, the hardest part of parenting has ALWAYS been knowing when to stop! It still is. All the "look-both-way-before-you-cross-the-streets" kind of stuff is easy. If it isn't? You probably shouldn't be anyone's parent. If you're a parent and still coming home drunk at nights or getting speeding tickets with regularity, etc....chances you still need parenting... OF YOU!