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Originally Posted by sammyg2
...but I won't and neither will my children.
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Funny and more than a bit naive in my opinion. I SINCERELY hope you are right but... I would have said this too once. How old are your children, Sammy?
My Story: My then-supersonic scholastic daughter, the one who is/was a National Hispanic Scholar, multi-lettered All-CIF waterpolo player, OVER 4.5 gpa, accepted-to-Ivy-League-schools as an undergrad, etc. went off to UCLA in 2000 and I would drive down from Pasadena to take her to dinner every other week. I was newly divorced and struggling so I needed the regular contact more than she did with me but....one night I am dropping her off and she pivots to get out of my car so the rear of her pants ride down on her and I see it. A TRAMP STAMP over her crack! The car door closed and I am just about apoplectic with upset. I couldn't stop thinking of it. This is my baby. The light of my life! She's beautiful in my opinion and she was now well, defiled as far as I am concerned.
Long story short, I found out it happened a few months before, during the week she was in Hawaii after high school that her mother gave her as a graduation gift. Her mother went with her to Hawaii and didn't know she & her friend got matching ones put in the same place. I read her the riot act. As calmly as I could but with a GREAT amount of upset in my voice and bearing I explained what that meant to people of my age in particular. And that it always will. "How will you explain this to your children?" "You can't even see it!" I got back all the protestations you would expect, etc. Bottomline, its still there. I am STILL upset as hell about it. I would have BET MY SOUL she wouldn't do this, but she did.
Despite your comments to the contrary you cannot know everything your child will do and you CERTAINLY can't (and shouldn't, though in situations like this it pains me to say it) control what they do in the future.