[scottmandue]

I'm kind of in the same boat... except I'm 50... met a great gal and we have been dating for a couple of months... however marriage is the farthest thing from my mind right now.

Why the talk of marriage? Is she pushing for it?

She sounds like a sweet caring person, that is probably what attracted you to her in the first place. Problem being it also sounds like her family is taking advantage of her sweet disposition.

What does your therapist say about the relationship? Would your therapist be interested in counseling you together? Would she be up to going to the therapist with you?

With my relationship we have a lot of issues... don't know that I will every meet a lady where where there will not be any conflict... but for me I know what the deal breakers are and so far we have not hit any of those. I guess you have to sit down and evaluate the relationship and see if the pluses out-weight the minuses.

I understand what you are saying... the longer you let the relationship go on the more attached you become and the more painful the separation will be if it comes.

Unfortunately most great gains in life are accompanied with great risk.

Hope that helps.