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Originally Posted by Hawktel
I can't see how you can lose by dating her, or win by marrying her.
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Well-put.
I am in a similar situation. Divorced four years ago after 23 years of marriage. I'm seeing a wonderful lady. Wonderful in just about every respect. You mention physical compatibility.......this women starts having the "O" after about fifteen seconds, and I'm always surprised she survives the ensuing ten minutes. Amazing. She should be in a circus.
I digress. As far as marriage goes, the reason I'm not okay with that idea is because I don't want to fuk anything up. I don't want to live with her, either. I want to see her, when we like, as often as we like, and I want us each to preserve our independence. No "trap" feeling. I strongly suggest you dismiss the marriage idea entirely.
In your particular instance, you can already see aspects that irritate you. That is a danger signal. And here's the big one: You are still not fully recovered from the marriage. It will take substantial more time before you have got your life and your self-esteem in order. During the time between now and then, you will be very vulnerable. A target.