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Well, I guess I should chime in.
The number one thing to remember, you will not find True love in a bar (unless it is a bottle) I say this as one who has worked in & out of the business since I bar-tended, Worked the door, DJ sometimes to help a friend, in college. Great place to get laid, but not to find the lady to spend the rest of your life with.

Like Wayne & others have said, be a gentleman, we are getting to be a rare breed, but a quality lady still likes to have the door opened for her, drinks refilled & if she smokes, those lit, don't give her a chance to do it her self or ask, pay attention, details are were it is at

Again, always be a gentleman, if you are sitting at a bar, and a lady pulls out a cigarette, lean over & light it, don't try and start a conversation, just light it and go back to your business, if she is interested, she will say something and you aren't looking pushing, just being a gentleman.

Dress to impress, but don't over or under dress. Dress for the location/event. Women do notice what you wear, just last week, I pulled out my wallet to pay my tab, a girl 2 tables over noticed it was a Michael Toschi and came over and commented on it. Women to look for men with style & class, that doesn't mean that you have to follow trends. Yes, there are some high $$ shirts, I have some that cost over $600, but you won't catch me wearing one of those to a bar, mostly corperate, upper end events or very upscale plaCES. Shoes, very true, but location matters too, in FL. Sperry Topsiders can be worn just about every where as many of us have boats, friends with boats and spend time at country clubs. True fashion, never goes out of style, watch a old James Bond movie, Lacost shirt, Rolex Sub, Sperrys that worked in the 60s still fit in today.
Which brings me to amother thing, watches, a nice Rolex (I don't wear one much any more, but do have a few), as others have already said, just (this also depends on where you are) attract the wrong women (like our Porsches some times do) and wearing a fake, well, if you meet a quality lady, and she knows her stuff , will run from a guy trying to pass himself off wearing fakes (include clothes too) don't be a poser!!

Be confident, carry your self well, this too has been covered, just be your self.

Just be a nice person, be nice to animals, if a girls pet likes you, you have a better chance to build with her, if it doesn't, don't let the door hit you on the ass, animals are a great judge of charitor, and I don't say this just because most animals like me

Colone, just a small bit, don't bath in it, no one wants to smell you before you come in, and us guys will rag you about it too.

Girls love a guy who will cook for them, and entering a chili cook off is a good way to make a positive impression. I use a modified Shelby recipe.


Let her choose the music, sure it may suck, but this is about her, not you.
OK, now a few things that don't match what I have said, but is interesting (any one who knows me can back me up too)


I have stopped at a local bar, after working on the track car or just been out for a bike ride, sweat, t-shirt, checkered Vans, felt like a bum, only to pick up some hotties (one nurse I use to date, use to swear that I put out a scent that drove her crazy, at first I thought it was a line, but I have met many others who said the same thing) so it really is how well you carry your self.

I almost never drive one of my Porsches to a bar, generally my old truck or ride a BMX bike to some of the closer ones, it is much more fun when they see your beat up truck @ your business and stop by to see you and find a bunch of old Porsches, and one time when I rode my bike, met a hot little red head who rode with friends (and yes, I bring my BMX bikes right into the bars, I'm not leaving them out side) I told her that I just lived down the street and would go get my car. Well, as I drove back up, she was walking down the street, towards my house, you should have seen her face when I picked her up in the 911 cab
Reason not to drive the Porsche or dress well for some places;
Years ago, a buddy who owned a bar moved it to a not as nice area, being loyal to my friends, I stopped by for a few drinks after working an event. As soon as I got my drink, a red neck chick comes up, grabs my drink and ask if I'm a car salesman, since I'm wearing a suit This was the late 80s and it was a $2,000 suit, and I got insulted. It gets better, I throwing darts with another girl (just killing time, not hitting on her, I use to like to play darts) and she tells me she has to leave, I say fine. I tab out, go to my Porsche (it was only a few years old at the time) and as I'm heading out, I hear someone yelling at me. Yes, the same girl that just blew me off when I wasn't hitting on her, comes running to my car, then tells me

My trailer is just down the street and she has some JD if I want to come back to her place

I don't want a woman who is more interested in what I own than who I am.

A final thing, the best advise that I didn't take (don't make this mistake guys)
About 20 years ago, I got pulled over and Patty was with me (yes, the same one who just destroyed my phone) and of course, she smarted off to the cop.
He said

Son, you said that she is your ex

I said

yes sir

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He then said,

Follow me son. There is a reason she is an ex. She reminds me of my ex wife, do your self a favor, keep her an ex!!!

If I had listened to him, my hair might still be dark instead of gray.

If all else fail, this won't




I hope this helps, I'm off to the pub