[bigchillcar]

wow..lot's of great input and differing opinions..i was hoping for good debate on the issue. i don't want to be totally blinded by androgens..

good advice, ron..really don't want to go back to jail for something stupid again.

toady - appreciate it. same, rob..you can relate to how i felt.

dottore - fair enough.

rattlsnak - point is the guy's a friend..not a stranger. i'd view that totally different. and i am old-fashioned. i'm not doing anything until i'm divorced. i'm not holding her to the same standard, but she seems to feel similarly. separated is 'fair game? i guess for some, not for others..fair enough. not sure how she'd feel about me 'getting hit on'..may still be a sore spot for her, but doubt she'd blame me either.

sapporo - this may clinch it for many. it's over..i guess like some have said..it's just 'paperwork now'..but we both still hurt about it, true enough. the body's just still a 'little warm' for a friend to move in imho. like a guy chasing his best friend's widow before the body's cold in the grave kinda feeling..

kurt - just not ready to get serious dating..