[jhynesrockmtn]

Red Beard is right. Hey how's it going? Drove Wayne's car yesterday during a brief respite in our constant snow/rain deluge.

I was married for a long time, married too young and naive and the relationship lacked greatly on the physical side. I didn't realize what a toll that took on me over time. I stayed for the wrong reasons, and we had kids. They are my life and I wouldn't trade them and therefore the relationship for anything. We got along great as parents/friends.

We ultimately split though and my GF over the last year is totally different. Very physical. The intimacy and sex are fantastic. I'd kind of given up on that but experiencing that side of a relationship has been an awakening. But, the more I'm around her, her life outside of our relationship is a bit of a mess. I'm too old to take on a project who doesn't work, has no friends outside of us, etc.

I guess my point is it can start as friends or strong physical attraction/good sex. You must have both ultimately too sustain something along with shared values and goals. You don't have to do everything together but it helps if one is active, the other isn't a couch potato, etc.

I have no idea if the perfect woman exists for me. So far I've kind of had two extremes in longer term relationships. I'm about to find out.............