[911Rob]

Might be so, but the fact that you're talking about things that are important to you now, before any real commitment will only enhance the relationship in years to come.

Two things before marriage;
1. Make sure you state all the rules of engagement; cause after you're married you don't get any say any longer.
2. Make sure you have a challenge or conflict so that you can see how the other person reacts. Laying out the ground rules for challenges is a very good thing, testing those ground rules is better.

FWIW, my first wife use to threaten me with the "D" word all the time. Threat turned into reality. My second wife and I have NEVER brought up the word, never.

Good on you Sapp, hope you're finding some real happiness!

Edit: sorry 'bout my englash?