[KaptKaos]

Tough question.

Say hello to a 2%'er.

Anyway, I think you need to discuss what the priorities are. Those priorities should be mutually agreed upon. Once she agrees and acknowledges what those priorities are, then you have a basis from which you can make future decisions.

When I was a kid, grades were first, anything else was secondary. Good grades, no problems with doing anything else. Not so good grade, then things got taken away. With your daughter being 17, things are trickier. It's hard to take things away. She may be expecting you to pay for certain things, like college or a car. You could put guidelines around that based upon her grades.

She's basically an adult and hopefully will listen to reason. She also seems like a pretty good kid. I hope it works out for the best.