[Dueller]

Point well taken. I need to clarify that these girls are not "golddiggers." The house we lived in when their mom and I got married was relatively modest and cramped yet they never were embarassed to have their friends over. They have dated some great kids from modest working class families. And not all their friends are rich (as opposed to wealthy...). We just live in the highest per capita income/resources town in the state. For example, the median home price is in the $330K range here whereas statewide its probably less than $100K.

The boy on the left is really a slug. Like I said earlier, he's pleasant but not motivated to accomplish anything on his own. I have had a discussion with my stepdtr and asked how she felt about having to work for her money when bf doesn't. Her response was to the effect "Well that's just the way it is...i don't think he appreciates all that his mother gives him and he's kinda spoiled and lazy." No real resentment, and she enjoys being able to go to the lake on his boats/jet skis etc on his dime. Who wouldn't?

The other kid is a top notch baseball player being recruited by major league and colleges. Plans are to go to major college, get a degree, realistic about how much of a longshot is for a pro career. So in that sense he's OK. OTOH his father and mother are professionals and they fund a pretty comfy lifestyle so he can pursue a college baseball career. He doesn't work and all his gas/cars/entertainment etc is funded by parents.

Quiet honestly, I think both of the girls are very proud of "making it" on their own.