[Overpaid Slacker]

Money is not a trivial issue in relationships; especially where there is a disparity of income and expectation.

There's nothing wrong with feeling that your choosing to absorb the cost of her life (read: kids) should be appreciated, and if she can't reciprocate monetarily, at least she should acknowledge that you're putting yourself out and cut your some slack on other fronts. If there is no "other front" on which she can accommodate your feelings or compromise, then she's a liability all around.

JP