[stomachmonkey]

Ground Rules.

There are rules for the house, not individuals. Individual rules come about when the house rules are ignored.

You and the wife need to establish house rules first because the house belongs to all of you.

You and the wife need to understand that if they were NOT your stepkids that the two of you would still disagree from time to time.

My wife and I try to present a united front and have one position with the kids.

Sometimes we disagree and I put the brakes on the current conversation, we go to another room and discuss and then come back to the kids.

Nothing wrong with "go to your room until your mother and I have decided how we will handle this"