[gchappel]

We had two unwritten rules that worked pretty well.
First- ALWAYS agree with your spouse on children issues- and it has to go both ways. You cannot let them see weakness, or they will divide and conquer.
Second- Learn to pick your battles. You will win some, you will lose some- like in any relationship. With your kids you get to pick which ones you win. Pick the important stuff.

We also had 2 rules for teenage drivers. My 2 have had one fender bender in 15 driver years following these:
1. No alcohol.
2. Two solid objects cannot occupy the same space at the same time.

Good luck.
Gary