[Lil Black Car]

Ian,
Yellow fever can be very hard. I know because my wife is Korean and I am sure that at times I have acted stupidly, but fortunately I was well into my thirties when we married and had been out of my folks house for many years. We did not exactly keep our wedding a secret from the family but about a week afterwards her uncle (her father died a few years ago) found out he hopped in his plane and flew over for a surprise visit.
There was a knock on the door late at night and when I answered it there was a very well dressed older Korean man on the porch with four very large (and oviously well armed) young Korean men standing around him. I stepped aside getting ready for I don't know what would happen when my wife walked up and saw the man standing there. She dropped straight down with her hands over her head and I started reacting. It was not very pretty and damn near got very ugly.
But all that said I would not trade her for anything, and the family has seen that i mean to protect their daughter and love her the best I can. Make sure your boy isn't being duped but kick that a$$ out on the street. whether they find the jobs they think they deserve or not, the way to happiness for them (and you) will not be found with them in the back room. All it takes is one stray sound in the middle of the night to have everyone walking around funny the next day. Yep, that yellow fever is a killer...