[johndglynn]

Not putting anyone down here but I will never understand this notion that my descendents will need a place to grieve for me - what? I think it is wildly self-important to believe that years later I will have folks coming back to look at where I rotted away, I don't want that.

I think leave people some writing, photos, video, something that illustrates who you were in character, not a filled-in hole under a shady tree. I never go to visit my grandparents' graves (they are 600 miles away for one thing) but I think about them every day. Same with my wonderful Uncle Sean, who's remberance card is on my refridgerator door next to a pic of my wife in a bikini (he would love that). No way is it an empty feeling to not be visiting a grave, more like a liberating feeling.

Remember people in life, not in death.