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Originally Posted by Dan in Pasadena
Jim, Interesting. What's the book title?
My Dad was a "fume and scream" type. He gave himself a four packs a day smoking habit which resulted in 20 years of heart attacks and minor stroke. I watched it all from age 15 to 35. Oh, and he passed it on to me!
For the longest time (and yes, still occasionally) I get ALL PISSED OFF at something, someone. Then I realize, "F this. Life really is short. Who the hell needs this?" I force myself to not give a rip. Its water over fire, a giant Tums tablet, a glass of milk over heartburn.
Honestly? It makes me feel powerful that I don't let things get to me much anymore. At age 50 I went to HeartcheckAmerica and had a full body scan. No, none, zero plaque in my arteries. Granted, I got my mom's genes but still my outlook probably has something to do with it.
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One is called Boys Adrift.
http://www.boysadrift.com/
The other is 7 Habits of a Peaceful Parent.
http://www.rpinet.com/products/shpp.html
I too grew up in a very difficult home where a severe beating was the answer for everything with a healthy dose of verbal abuse as well, its messed me up pretty bad too, I do not want to be like my father so instead when conflict comes with the children I turn and run in order not to explode like he did. It leaves me poor wife to be the only disciplinarian in the house.
We attended a workshop at my younger sons Montessori school based on the second book, it was very helpful, especially when your in a room of parents struggling like you do.
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