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Dan, there is some great advice here, and from people who have been close to the deaths of people they love. Everyone has to die, that is part of life, and everyone knows it, at least after you get past 18. I think most folks past the middle have at least thought about their eventual demise. When it is time and the person is aware of his or her time of passing, they have a lot of time to reflect on the past, and will spend a lot of time alone thinking about it, unless the pain or drugs mask that process. It is good to be with that person if you can and I know how stressful that is to do, I have done it several times. Think of the good times, the great things that person has done, their contributions to the family, how important they are. How loved he is and how much he will be remembered! He knows the end is near in this case. As an uncle, just think of all he must have done for you! My uncles were pretty cool. Guys from a different age. Guys that were soldiers, pilots and boxers and family men too As a child you were probably in their focus for many years. Love 'em and respect 'em.
If you or the family has any photos, bring those, that can spur conversation and some needed laughs or memories. It doesn't have to be sad, in fact that is a drag on the time. He sounds like a man that has done things and been places, ask him for stories about his best times, and then remember them to pass them on. Good luck to you and your uncle. Glenn
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