[notfarnow]

Nomatter what way you play it, this sounds like a situation that will end up in court. Might as well fix it now, even if it means being the defendant instead of the plaintiff. I'm not a fan of "rough" solutions, but this one might warrant one. Nothing worse than worrying about your mother's safety.

My mother is a teacher and lives alone. A few years ago she had trouble with a student following her home, pulling into the driveway at night, basically bullying her but never outright threatening her. She wouldn't tell me his name or let me get involved. Well, she went away one weekend and I stayed in the house to watch the dog, etc. He made the mistake of pulling up the driveway one night while I was there. I was out in the yard, and he didn't even see me or hear me coming. I got him right in the jaw, still sitting in the car with the window open, and kept at him as he backed out. Only time I've ever punched someone (other than my brother). I could have ended up in court, but I really think it would have be worth it. I don't think anyone would hold that against me.