[jyl]

Hmm, I participated in one intervention, it was completely unsuccessful. My friend walked in, saw us all there, realized immediately what was going on. He politely but firmly told us he appreciated our concern and effort but he did not need any help, and then he left. He and his wife got divorced a year later.

I can't really make this a morality tale by saying he's so badly off, though. Somehow he got all the stock which vested a year after the divorce was final, he bought an SF apartment building, lives on a sailboat, rides a motorcycle, is basically living the affluent bachelor life, and if he is still a heavy drinker it has not caught up to him yet, not that I've seen him much since then.

Oh well.