For home defense I use Winchester Ranger 9mm luger Law Enforcement rounds. 147 grain hollowpoints. I would NOT want to be hit with one. Ever.
For the carbine (Ruger PC9) I use CCI Blazer aluminum cased ammo.
For the range, whatever. I typically don't like reloads, but I'll shoot them in a pinch. Most ranges require FMJ, non-lead these days anyway.
Info:
http://www.winchester.com/lawenforcement/pdf.aspx?pdf=LEPDF/2006%20Poster_Front.pdf