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Originally Posted by rusnak
Ok, then to bring the point further closer to home....let's just say that everything is fine, wife is happy, you're happy. But you meet this hot young thing, she says she is into you and all, and you know you won't get caught. Do you feel tempted to have a no-strings roll in the hay, or do you abstain because of a higher standard? Do you abstain because your fear of God is greater than your temptation? I know what my answer is, but I also know there has to be a thousand different answers out there as well. It goes to how you see yourself.
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OK. If that happened to me, it's not like I wouldn't be flattered by the attention nor excited by the jump in hormones. Even though I'm a Christian, it's not a fear of God or some eternal punishment that would ultimately sway me, it would be expectation of what the knowledge of my potential actions would do to my wife. I can imagine the emotional pain and suffering that "a no-strings roll in the hay" would cause her. I couldn't do that to her. She and her relationship with me is too important to me. We've collectively put a lot into our 15 years of marriage. That means investing more than 15 years in trying to make each other happy. Doing something stupid like having "no-strings" fling would fly in the face of all of that.
BTW, aside from the philosophical question, I don't think that there is such a thing as "no strings". Even if the significant other doesn't explicitly find out, it doesn't cover up the fact that where previously there was openness, and trust -- there would now be hiding and secrecy. All of life's actions have ramifications that have to be lived with. Stuff like guilt, hiding and secrecy tends to be corrosive to relationships.
Aside from all of the emotional show-stoppers that I've mentioned earlier, be sure to re-read some of the earlier postings from guys getting divorces. It's a really ugly and expensive process where there really aren't any winners.
I hope that I never go there!