[Superman]

I appreciate the comments and especially the support.

I am not offended by the remarks that appear critical or perhaps disrespectful or judgemental. Electronic communication sucks. As a consequence, some of you guys make assumptions that are neither helpful nor accurate. FWIW, I am indeed direct. Even, sometimes, gently confrontational. Remember, my work is labor relations in the construction industry. Communication in my world is refreshingly candid. Blunt. But not disrespectful. Cards MUST be laid on the table, face-up, in my world. Anything less ensures disaster. But....I am widely beloved if I do say so myself. That is neither here nor there for you guys but just so you know......I am widely respected not only in Labor circles but in the Business community as well. One of my proudest accomplishments was the fairly heartfelt and resounding support and compliments I got from the business community when I stepped down from the twelve years in my position at the state Labor department. They said I was fair, and open, and consistent, and respectful and they appreciated my approach and were sorry to see me leave. For a dyed-in-the-wool "labor guy" I regarded that as high praise.

Anyway.... with respect to this co-worker, I have done my best and now am done. I tried very hard in a warm and personal and even intimate fashion. This guy is a former Porsche guy. He's got a restored, Stone Grey 356C in his driveway that he will not remove the cover from. Won't touch it. He's just a weird guy. And again, I can see now that his values simply do not include loyalty or friendship or teamwork whatsoever. He is a bit of a workplace 'sociopath' in this regard. I am not a black-and-white thinker, generally. Every rule has exceptions. Nothing is easy or certain. Except people. I think I can trust just about everybody. There are a few that I KNOW I can trust. And then there are a few I know I cannot trust. This guy has moved from Category 1 to Category 3. And I am sad about that.