[Rick Lee]

I can't believe I missed this thread.

When my band dissolved a year after I graduated college, I moved back home to find a job in NJ. My dad gave me two weeks before I had to start paying rent. Before those two weeks were up I had moved to Wash. DC and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'd have moved sooner, but my car was in the shop.

By contrast, my sister was always clinging to my folks after college, asking for money, living there rent free (double standard), and today at the tender age of 34, she's still not straightened out. Now she just calls our grandmother when she needs money. She aspires, yes aspires, to live in section 8 housing, but is afraid she might make too much money to qualify.

Ian, I'd have kicked them out a month after the wedding with no financial support whatsoever. Every deadbeat in the world has a great story as to why they can't get a job or live where they "need" to live or just have to stay a little bit longer. It will never end and if I were you, I'd have a back-up plan for when their Nov. 1 move date changes. My experience has been that folks who need their parents for money or room and board after college never ever break out on their own. There may be exceptions out there, but I haven't known any.