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Originally Posted by imcarthur
If I had done that, he would probably be incommunicado with his mother & I would have probably lost a wife or at best, she would have been seriously wounded. She has a hyper-protective mother instinct - call it Single Mother Syndrome. A knee jerk reaction would have been fatal to all & beneficial to none. Patience & finesse looks like it will win the day. I'll report after the move.
Ian
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+1. If you are not the parent, and involved with a mother and her kids, as a male you are virtually in a "no win" situation UNLESS the mother "allows" the relationship to have equal status to her offspring (and that's rare imo). If you've never been in that situation you really have no perspective regarding how some mother's will side with her kids NO MATTER what is going down. "Damned if you do, damned if you don't" most of the time imo. Ian, I applaud you for your perspective (and restraint), and giving this some time to resolve itself. The fact that your wife followed suit (or rather "unsuit"
) at the dinner table speaks volumes about your status with her. For most of us, that's lousy position to be in (with a woman you love), but that's just the way it is with a mother and her kids. Good luck brother...I think it's gonna work out for ya!!!