[Rick Lee]

I'm only 37 and have no kids. But I am married to a Mainland Chinese woman and I also have some relatives just like Jeff describes his brother (and around the same age as him too). Ian, I see a lot of pain in your future. I give 50/50 odds on your boy's move-out date remaining Nov. 1. And even after that they WILL be back. Just my humble opinion, but not only have you and your wife enabled this kind of lack of independence on his part, but now he's married to someone from a culture where no one under the age of 30 has any siblings and thus has been doted on constantly by her parents. This is a baaaaaaddd mixture. I got a taste of it when my wife's mom came to visit for what was supposed to be six weeks and turned into six mos. My folks wouldn't even think of doing that, no matter where I lived and no matter our situation. And I have a super relationship with my folks. Geeze, my folks wouldn't stay more than a few days even if I lived in China.