[9dreizig]

Well what I've learned through this whole process is you often can't see it coming.. and clearly it's mental illness that nobody can possibly understand why they would do it.. both of these people were loved by everyone around them.. I'm just happy that both of my sons have independently said " that's never the answer" I worry about the scars that this has left on my brother his wife and son, and my ex wife. I'm sure everyone else will be fine, I'm just not sure losing a spouse or child is ever totally recoverable......