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Personally, I don't think there is any such thing as "unlucky in love". I was married 20 years before divorcing. She came home one day and decided she didn't want to me married to me anymore. Even though we have two wonderful children as a result; in 20-20 hindsight she was probably not the person I should have chosen to marry.
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I had a similar experience but was told she knew right after we got married it was wrong. The intimacy was never there. I always thought it was my fault. Kids came, I stayed, we were good parents together and did all of the financial/life stuff well but no spark. Finally a Porsche purchase pushed her over the edge. All of a sudden she started seeing me spend some of "our" money, which by the way I earned while she was a housewife who didn't cook and could barely clean. I did get two great kids out of the deal.
Now I have a great fiance' who is excited when I'm around, I could stare at her all day long, is a great cook and doesn't need my now significantly smaller bank account. I'll dive in again, what the heck. I have a confidence this will work. Not sure why, but I did learn yesterday (Myers Briggs) I'm a gut feel type of decision maker anyway so best not to analyze too much.
My big advice to my kids is to not get married until your older than I was and have dated. lived with, loved enough people to know when it's right based on experience and maturity.