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I'm the youngest of 3, and we're each spaced 2 years.

My middle sister is the most selfish person I've ever met. Last night, in discussions with my older sister, I said the middle one was selfish to the point of being compared with the type of girls seen on the E! channel, like the Kardashions.

My mother turns 75 this friday. My older sister and I we're planning a surprise birthday party for her. My mother is planning a surprise 80th party for my father for Saturday, so we had good cover.

Middle sister had mom buy ballet tickets for Friday. Everyone thought they were middle of the day. Turns out they are evening tickets. Middle sister was a professional ballet dancer, and used to dance for this company in Houston.

Well, I was supposed to tell middle sister and my wife left message about selling off the tickets, since we were having the surprise birthday party.

Middle sister goes ballistic. Both older sister and I say, "But this is so we can have the Surprise birthday party on Firday night. Can't you give up the ballet for mom?"

Well, no, she can't. WE are inconsiderate to even ask HER to give up going to the ballet. Not only this, but she went ape-ship on my older sister, and lecturered her etc. She then called me up and started to lecture me. I said "Fine. Don't go to your mother's 75th birthday." her response was "You aren't my father. I don't have to listen to you." So I hung up on her.

She then calls even our mother complaining about this WHOLE mess. My parents are PAYING for her AND her husband to come to Texas for Thanksgiving. She truely believes the world revolves around her. This is nothing new.

My older sister and I had to tell my mother about the surprise party, since she now knew something was up, and WE were upsetting our middle sister. AND we've had to move the party to the afternoon, and not have 1/2 of my older sister's kids not attend until very late, since they won't arrive until 7PM on Friday.

My mother is an enabler. I believe she created this problem. I've given up even trying to do anything for her. I refuse to enable her any more. I put up with her crap for years, but not anymore. My older sister has now had it with her.

As my wife has said, you can drop friends, but family is forever.

rant over.

I need another bottle of wine and more ammo...