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My next-door neighbor died last week. He was 84. His widow is also 84.

I clear their driveways and sidewalks whenever it snows. I don't see a need for someone in their mid-80's to risk injury shoveling. I just do it. I couldn't live with myself if either of them (well, just her now) get injured.

I was going to rake their leaves on Sunday, but I came home from the range on Saturday to find that their leaves had been done: a local boy scout troop had come and cleared their lawn. (The recently-deceased husband was VERY involved in scouts.)

I'm thinking now that the husband is gone, we should take her out to dinner once a month. Two of her kids live here in town, but they can't be there all the time.

Be mindful of pride. I think your idea is best. Coming over in person to give the meal might embarass them and make them feel they need to refuse--even if they could really use it.