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Originally Posted by genrex
I had that issue with my ....snip..... It worked out for us.. *sigh of relief
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Smart guy genrex!
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Originally Posted by Dueller
.....Their 18th birthdays are coming up and I anticipate this battle.
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You "anticipate"?
I think you should give more attention to what you want instead of what you don't want. These kids are pretty much grown up and they're gonna do pretty much what they want. Best thing for you to do is chill out a bit and enjoy them for the wonderful kids that they are. Focus your attention on their mother.
From what I've read the girls have steady boyfriends, so they're not out with some guy that's just in it for the 'kill' and then going to move on to the next girl; which is good for you Dad. I've taught my girls the 3 to 5 NO technique and I'm pretty sure they use it on the boys. Say NO 3 to 5 times for everything the boy wants; holding hands, first kiss, etc.; if the boys still around after 3 to 5 NOs then it's likely that he actually likes/cares for you and he's not just a hunter.
After that it's all about building relationships and that's a life long journey. Our kids can learn a lot from relationships and they can gain alot of happiness from them too. I encourage relationships, ones that are built like friendships.
As for sex, well I'm not a hypocrite, but I do think I've learned a thing or two about the subject and how it applies to relationships. Sex before marriage.... well it's a fathers dream that it won't happen and there's one thing for sure, It ain't gonna happen in front of me anytime soon. I could accept it after a good strong relationship was built that was leading to marriage; I think?
I teach my kids that relationships are like foundations (Im a builder) and if you build a good foundation you can have a strong lasting building. Some foundations are built weak and the building isnt as strong. Sex on the first night is definately a relationship built on a weak foundation, it doesn't mean it won't work or can't be repaired, but its definately weak. Sex introduced into a relationship with respect, care and love builds strong relationships.
My greatest compliment is when my kids bring their friends to me and ask me to talk to them about relationships; then I know I've got their respect. I expect greatness from my children; I often explain what it means to be a McKibbon and they have not disappointed me, ever.
For you Due, I think the best thing to do is back down from the kids and focus on the mother. Share your lifes experience with them when you have the opportunity, but most importantly show them how a relationship is suppose to be by example first. Your wife is your Queen; you chose her.
One last thought before signing off; a little off topic but a continued thought. When I see a man that treats his wife with disrespect, I lose respect for that man. Think about it; here's the most important relationship that a man can have AND its one that he chose for himself to boot. I've never seen a bad relationship where the man treats his wife with love and respect.
In summary, my general answer to your inquiry is NO! 