[Jim Sims]

Here is the 2008 Republican Party platform statement on the issue:

"Modernize Long-Term Care Options for All

The financial burdens and emotional challenges of ensuring adequate care for elderly family members affect every American, especially with today’s aging population. We must develop new ways to support individuals, not just institutions, so that older Americans can have a real choice whether to stay in their homes. This is true not only with regard to Medicaid, where we spend $100 billion annually on long-term care, but also for those who do not qualify for that assistance."

Any questions?

In all seriousness, this issue will bite more and more with our aging population and it will not be fully addressed by the free-market despite what anybody says. People and their families will not (and really cannot) prepare for any eventuality that will befall them in old age. That is the purpose of mandatory social insurance. Avail yourself of any public and private assistance you can obtain. This is the richest country that has ever existed and if it can piss trillions of dollars away on foreign adventures and bailing out Wall Street it can afford to help you care for your elderly. There is absolutely no shame in it. You, your GF and he have paid taxes. Given the man's size and issues you will likely have to face eventually moving him to a home. Just remember to continue to stay in his life if he goes there. I will be soon facing the same issues. Good luck