[vash]

i dont think you should make any assumptions on where or how that family got what material belongings that they do have.

if you give a gift, and that is what you did, gave a fantastic, generous gift; it should be without questions or strings. it is like giving a homeless person some money, and having them go out and buy crack cocaine, and you getting all pissy about it. once you handed it over, you lose the right to determine how it is spent.

i would have thought the exact same thing. WTF? that is probably why i dont give $$ to things.

help out at a old folks home. great idea. or is there some old person in the neighborhood without many visitors? invite that person over to eat, watch TV, drink booze. i am going to do just that. i have an elderly woman that lives on the corner. i will invite her for stew, and bubbly.