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Originally Posted by DanielDudley

You need to go to Al Anon. The problem you are having is that you think you are helping. You are not. You said it yourself, you just don't want to feel bad. The situation is counter intuitive. Helping in this case is making the person deal with their own problems. Yeah, he could die. He could also die in a bed in your house, in a pool of his own vomit. It happens. He could also score some really good stuff and OD. That happened to a guy I used to know, in his parent's house. He wasn't yet 30.

BTW, the best way to throw someone out is to grab them by the belt and the collar. Try not to hit the door jamb with his head.


Just so you know, I fired the guy who was my best man. I told him I wasn't paying for his habit, and I wasn't going to watch him die. He called me a couple of years later to thank me. He seemed to think it turned his life around.

Sometimes a wake up call is like a slap. Go to Al Anon. You need to find out what you are dealing with, and how to deal with it.

Yeah, I'm at the point where I believe that nothing we do is helping. I've assumed that he needed the kick in the ass to get turned around. I'd hoped that he'd experienced that, but maybe not.

"Try not to hit the door jamb with his head."

Do I have to?