[911Rob]

Steve,
I would also suggest that you identify what YOU want. Think about the goal that you want to achieve in all of this. From that goal you will have a sense of direction to work towards. Often these types of relationships tend to go in circles and you want to keep it in a line, moving forward to your goal of what YOU want.

I think it will help?

I would offer:
1. I want my son to realize that he needs professional help.
2. I want him to submit to getting professional help.
3. I want him to stop abusing himself
4. I want him to stop threatening to kill himself
5. I want him to start leading a normal life
6. I want him to be a loving part of our family
7. I want him to be happy and cheerful
8. I want him to be successful