[Aerkuld]

To be fair I don't think you can help her until she wants to help herself. I suppose it really depends on how far she has gone so far. You say she says she knows she has to stop but they all say that. The biggest problem I think is that the alcohol becomes part of a familiar routine and seems to be the solution to all the problems where in reality it is probably the cause. If you can get her away from familiar surroundings, interrupt her routine for a few weeks, and keep her away from the bottle then you stand a chance. If you do manage this make sure she doen't return back to her familiar surroundings alone or that routine may just start right back up again.

This isn't going to be easy, especially from 400 miles away. It will frustrate the crap out of you and eat you up. It all seems so obvious to someone on the outside but there is no rational thought on the side of the person with the problem.

Best of luck and if you're going to get involved stick with it.