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Originally Posted by exitwound
I'm 7 hours away from a friend I care a great deal about. She started drinking nearly a year ago when she and her husband divorced. I only recently learned of this a few weeks ago. She claims she knows she has to cut back and/or stop, but is unable to do it (or unwilling, which is more likely the case). It's killing me because she doesn't know how much in love with her I am and how helpless I feel from 400 miles away.
Anyone here have anything helpful to offer? All I can do from this distance is talk to her. The online resources are good but nearly useless due to our distance. She needs to want to stop first, but what can I do to help?
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Honestly?
In my experience, if she doesn't want to go to rehab and won't listen to simple reason....nothing.
In fact trying to help too much becomes enabling, and is even worse than ignoring her.
Quitting is easy once you want to do it. And can be easily accomplished cold turkey. I've done so with all the following:
Alcohol (early 20s)
Cigarettes (2003 after about 20 years smoking)
Coke (age 17 when i joined the army)
Pot (fairly recently, after almost 25 years smoking)
If i can do it, anyone can. You just have to want to.